Today would have been Jeff’s 42nd birthday.<\/p>\n
It’s been on my mind the past few days and I’d been trying to figure out what to do. \u00a0Should I\u00a0deliberately\u00a0dwell on it – and try and work through some remaining issues? \u00a0Or keep myself busy and distracted? \u00a0The first seemed self-indulgent and depressing, the second seemed shallow. \u00a0The internal debate got me worked up and I kinda broke down again. \u00a0Took myself for a walk, got settled down a bit, and decided to come up with a third option somewhere in the middle. \u00a0That being, keep busy and focus on good things about Jeff.<\/p>\n
So, to that end:<\/p>\n
1. I finally made contact with the financial company where Jeff had his 401k. \u00a0After slogging through several 800 numbers, the worst hold music ever, and a cranky and confusing staff person – I finally reached a pleasant and helpful person who guided me through the process and is sending some paperwork for me to complete.<\/p>\n
2. I called Jeff’s aunt and invited her to dinner tonight. \u00a0Figured it would be a nice thing to do and good for both of us.<\/p>\n
3. After dinner, I plan on calling one of Jeff’s sisters to see how she’s doing. \u00a0Haven’t talked to her in a bit and a friendly voice might be a good distraction for her.<\/p>\n
I’m also thinking about having my former neighbors over for a visit this weekend.<\/p>\n
Feels like… maybe some closure. \u00a0Small steps to move on.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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